When we lose a loved one, a job, a business or something that really matters to us it is natural to grieve. No human will go through life without knowing these feelings at some point. According to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler there are five stages of the grieving process that we all go through as we move from denial to acceptance. We may not grieve in a proper order or even notice all the stages but grieving is necessary and for our own greatest good. Once we reach acceptance we can move forward in life, usually, with fond memories of the person or situation we lost. TAPPING is not a cure (nor should it become one) for grieving.

There are feelings that are TAPPABLE during the grieving process. These I like to call ancillary emotions to the grieving process. As an example, let’s say you were estranged from your mother or sister and she passed away without you seeing her. Estrangement is a form of judgement. She might have judged you or you might have judged her or both. The point is, when she died, someone that you once loved, was lost and you both were feeling bad, in some way, about the other.  Guilt, regret and shame are common ancillary feelings when someone passes. “I wish I could have told her I loved her”, “If only I had found a way to talk to her before she passed”, “If we had only forgiven each other…..”. These are just a few sentiments that might identify themselves as ancillary emotions. Regret, guilt and shame.

In order to eliminate these emotions we need to accept a few premises.

• Our Souls petitioned to come to Earth in order to have context for bliss. In other words, in Spirit, we are blissful. As humans we are experiencing fear, stress, anxiety, guilt, shame, disappointment and many other painful emotions that are the opposite to bliss. Our Souls require this context in order for us to learn how to transcend the suffering.
• We chose our family and they chose us. It is common sense to understand that, if they chose us, we were meant to experience their unique personalities. It is how we react to them that divulges how we feel about ourselves. If we change the way we look at things the things we look at change.
• Honor the fourth agreement: “Take nothing personally”. According to Don Miguel Ruiz who wrote “The Four Agreements”, nothing is personal as it is a gift from Creator to help us heal our wounded Souls
• Forgiveness = freedom. When we truly forgive ourselves for judging others and forgive others for being themselves we offer ourselves the gift of emotional Freedom.
• We never die! We will abandon our bodies but the Soul lives on. Our Spirit is a living, loving entity that “hears” energies and feelings across great distances. If you have lost someone they are gone in body but not in Spirit and can be communicated with so nothing has to be left unsaid forever and no opportunities for forgiveness have been lost.

Using talking techniques to uncover the origins of unwanted negative emotions is the first step toward healing and releasing them. I ask questions to help you uncover your truth about any situation then we TAP on the unwanted feelings, the negative memories, the triggers that arise as we uncover the past pain and suffering with the estranged person. Before too long those emotions are neutralized and forgiveness will be at your fingertips.

Tonight at  online group (May 12, 2020) we will work together to help members release their ancillary negative emotions between them and an estranged loved one. I hope you will join us.